Sunday, September 28, 2008

More Campus Talk

There is a new article in the campus newspaper that has raised a lot of comments.

Driver receives no additional charges after student death
Royal Purple News - Whitewater,WI,USA
The driver of the car that struck Michael Chaloupka, will not receive additional charges as a result of his death. Roschelle Sims, 22, a resident of ...
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I would like to comment that we talked to Mike while he was at the Fort Atkinson ER before he was flown to Madison. He did agree we should have a lawyer represent his interests and we contacted one the next day. What happens now is I guess up to his Mom and me. We have not decided the path this should take, and we are considering what we think Mike would like to do. We cannot decide until we know more and things settle down. All options remain open.

Another thought that came up in the comments and the article is about the crosswalk lights there and at other intersections. Most of us have crossed the street and have pushed these buttons. Now consider trying to push that button while sitting in a chair and not having the strength to raise your hand 2 inches above their resting point in front of you. There has to be an available reasonably costed technology available to solve that problem. Instead of a physical button, break a light beam on the post or some short range sensor that doesn't require physical strength to operate. My daughter struggles to get around the city of Waukesha, and most places in Waukesha have installed recently ADA compliant (but only for the sight impaired) crosswalk buttons that are hard for me to push. She has NO chance at pushing them unless someone is walking with her to do it.

Talk to the people that Mike walked around with. He was incredibly paranoid about crossing the street. You would be too if your older sister were hit by a bus 14 years earlier crossing a Waukesha street. She is luckier than Mike, and survived after a dozen operations, an amputation, and seizure disorder the rest of her life. There had to be something going on that Mike and the Young Lady didn't see each other. Someday I hope we will find out what that was. In the mean time, the authorities say there should be no further charges and I don't see a reason to dissagree. Be mad that it happened. Work towards getting better crosswalks and buttons that the less able among us can operate. Remember Mike for who he was and what he did and what he would want. Life goes on. Lets make the place we are in a better place, not an angry place. I guarentee you Mike would not want anyone to hate or harrass or otherwise wish bad things on the Young Lady. So please don't.

Mike's Dad

(PS, if someone could post these comments or a link to this posting in the comments of that article above, I would appreciate it.)

Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Dedication Memorial To Mike

Check the blog periodically to find out more details. We also plan on doing a fundraiser, to keep up the work Mike was planning on doing, through Intervarsity. This is what he would want.

If you would like to be notified by email when we have more of the details, send me your email address to

Thank You

To all Mikes and our friends and family.

There just are no words to thank you for your loving kindness and the expression of sympathy you have shown us during this difficult time, over the last couple of weeks. We will be forever grateful.
With all our love, The Chaloupka's

Sunday, September 14, 2008

Friday, September 12, 2008

I did some more searching this morning for articles about Mike. The first section is the new stuff that had not been on here before, the bottom after the break is the older stuff you can find earlier in the Blog. I wanted to pull it all together into one spot. If you see something new, send me a comment and I will look at it.,0,846388.story;jsessionid=E2AF3283FB2BAB45F2CAA14E2774BB87?contentId=7363860&version=1&locale=EN-US&layoutCode=VSTY&pageId=1.1.1&sflg=1

Mike's Life

You need to be a Freeman subscriber to read this, or pick up a copy of today's Waukesha Freeman, or we are trying to get copies for reading at the Memorial Service Saturday. Here's the link:

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Obituary-Written By Auntie Ellie

Michael James Chaloupka, 23, of Whitewater, formerly of Waukesha, passed on to his reward at University Hospital, Madison, Tuesday, September 9th, due to complications after a motor vehicle/wheelchair accident on August 26.

Mike was born April 10, 1985 in Waukesha, dear son of James and Julie (Roose) Chaloupka. He graduated in June 2003 from Waukesha North High School and from the University of Wisconsin Whitewater in May 2008. He served for several years as a Goodwill Ambassador for the Muscular Dystrophy Association.

His most recent goal was to become a campus staff worker with InterVarsity Christian Fellowship at UWW rather than “using his degree” in the typical sense. Although he was afflicted with MD, he was always willing to lend a helping hand wherever needed, and was always content and happy.

Mike is survived by his loving parents of Waukesha; a sister, Jennifer; a brother, Scott; both of Waukesha. Grandparents, Wm. and Elaine Chaloupka, of Mishicot, WI; MaryAnn and Stanley Roose, of Manitowoc, WI; Aunts: Ellen (Chaloupka) Rohr of Brookfield; and Pamela (Roose) Gauthier of Manitowoc; an uncle, John Roose; seven cousins; special friends, Matt Strzyzewski and Lauren Oftendahl and the many people he touched. Services will be held ...(See Below)... Mike had been working hard to achieve his goals at InterVarsity, the youth ministry at UW Whitewater.

In lieu of flowers, please send your memorials and donations to InterVarisity ( He would appreciate that more than anything at this time. Your gift will not help him, but will help the organization he put his heart and soul into for the last 3 years.

The family wants to thank everyone who has given their support over the past two weeks, especially Nurse "Angel" Kristin and the rest of the staff at University Hospital. Tragedies such as this remind us to explore and embrace life in yourself and in everyone you see each day. For tomorrow, the world may be completely different and you may not have the chance that you did today. Mike accomplished much more in his short life than many of us only hope to. The world will miss him.
The service is expected to include a time of open mike where whomever wants to can share a happy story or personal memory they had with Mike. You can come up alone, in groups, or if you want to share and can't say it then clearly write a couple of sentences before the service and someone will read it for you. I'm sure Mike would rather hear from you personally, however.

There will be a place to bring and share finger food, munchies, snacks, etc. I don't know details on this yet, more as we figure it out.

Whatever you bring, make sure it is eaten or take it with you at the conclusion of the service so that we are not stuck with a 3 year supply of chips.

Tuesday, September 9, 2008


This is our first time through a personal loss like this, and we are in the middle of making arrangements. We currently have plans to have services Saturday afternoon at 2pm at the Church Michael attended, CrossPointe Community Church.

The church is located in Whitewater at 445 N. Warner Road. The church website has a good set of directions.

Mike had been working hard to achieve his goals at InterVarsity. In lieu of flowers please send your memorials there. Go to and click on donate in the left column, and donate in Mike Chaloupka's name. He would appreciate that more than anything at this time. Your gift will not help him, but will help the organization he put his heart and soul into for the last 3 years.

September 9, 2008

After a two week struggle Mike passed away at 10:42am this morning.

Monday, September 8, 2008

There's good and bad in most days

Mike now needs a lower concentration of oxygen to keep his numbers up. He still needs it but it is an improvement. There was also some eye movement. We'll give thanks for anything that shows good signs.
The less good news is that they did a head CT scan and found some more issues. They are not exactly sure what it means yet, but Mike could use your prayers to heal this and take away whatever the Doctor didn't like when he looked at it.

Gift Of Balloons Mike Received

Sunday, September 7, 2008

A Second from Dad

Mike is still a very ill young man.
He has made great strides in the almost 2 weeks since his accident and there is reason for us to smile. I have not got my smile from him yet, and he is still not out of the woods, but he can see out of the woods from where he is today.

Your prayers are helping, I have no doubts.

Thanks for your support to Mike and to our whole family during this crisis.


Good News

Well Today was a great day. Mike no longer needs drugs to keep this blood pressure stable. His blood is now clotting without the help of med's. This is fabulous, he has had two great days.

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Saturday, September 6, 2008


Grandma and I spent Friday night and part of Saturday with Mike so that Mom could tend to matters at home. It was good to see some progress, although minimal. We hold out hope each day that all the equipment and medications he needs to keep his body functioning will not cause permanent damage. We won't know that outcome for a while.
Situations like this sure make you think.. One minute you can be a happy and healthy person. The next minute can have a team of experts discussing which issue to deal with first.
Auntie Ellie


From Dad.
It was good to see Mike again after almost a week on the homefront. A day without bad news is a good day. He is tolerating all the treatment well and hanging in there like a trooper. I didn't get my smile yet, but a few more days like this and we will get there.
They say God doesn't give you more than you can handle. I believe this and have been using this as my credo (and Mike's) for the past few weeks.

Friday, September 5, 2008


Today he had a pretty good day. He is still in critical condition, but we saw a little improvement. He still needs everyone to pray for him, he has alot of mending to do. As the doctor's put it, he is very sick.

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For anyone that wasn't able to see it, because you don't live in the area. It might take a couple minutes to load.

Thursday, September 4, 2008


I will be leaving some time in the afternoon. I need to go home and get a few things done. I will return on Saturday Morning with Jim. We will stay the weekend and go home Sunday evening. I will return on Monday morning and stay until Friday sometime. This will kind of be the schedule I believe.

This Aunt Ellen will be here tomorrow afternoon to stay with him.


Today went pretty well, actually better than all the doctors and nurses thought it would go. Because all the setting needed to be adjusted a few times. Every time they are adjusted his vitals go down, but they stayed in a pretty normal range for him.

I actually got a thumbs up from one of the doctors, he was more than please how the switch over went. I was really worried, but he did a pretty good.

New Coverage

The story should run on Fox6-milwaukee at 9 p.m. tonight.

Once it airs it will be posted on their website,


Please pray for Mike. He is going to be going a switched to a respiratory that should help him more. Please pray that the switch goes well, because like everything there are side effects. He needs everyone to Pray.

Loved Ones

This is to all our families friends, relatives, and every one we know.

Please, Please don't ever forget to tell your loved ones what they mean to you. Because anything can happen in the blink of a eye.
I week ago I never thought our lives would change so much in a blink of an eye.

That is how fast something like this can happen. He knows we love him, because we talk a lot on the phone, and we always say, I Love You, before we hang up.

That is a word I use often with my children. We love you all.

The Chaloupka Family


On Tuesday when I returned to the hospital. One of his nurses told me he lost a tooth, I was shocked. Since he really didn't have any injuries to his head. So I am assuming it is one of his front teeth. But this is a small tooth, I believe it was still one of his baby teeth. It is a very small tooth. We can't tell for sure what tooth it is, because of the breathing tube in his mouth.

Wednesday, September 3, 2008


Well today went pretty good. The spunky Mike is starting to show, that he is fighting hard. He tells you in a way, don't touch me. When he is moved his vitals go down, but in a little while then come back up. I can't even imagine with all the breaks, what is must fell like to be moved. In other words he is saying leave me alone.


Today went pretty well. He basically is the same as yesterday.

News Article

News Coverage

There will be a news story of Fox 6 Milwaukee. I am not sure at what time it will be on. As soon as I find out I will post it.
Maybe at 9 p.m., but I don't know for sure. That is the info I got his roommate. I don't think the report actually knew for sure.

One Week Since Accident

Well it has been one week since the accident, he has made great strives since then. He is still in critical condition, but still has a long way to come. Thank God, there is no way to thank everyone for there love and support. Words cannot express our gratitude to all of you.

I am at the hospital most of the time, most of you have my cell phone number call me or email me, if you want to make sure I am here. My email is posted on the blog. He can have visitors but I can only take in a couple at a time. But be prepared if you come, it not easy seeing him like this.

Visits help me right now, since I am at the hospital alone, most of the time. I have decided to stay here, I will probably go home about once a week to do what needs to be done there. On the weekends Me and Jim will both be here.


Mikes's Wishes

This is a letter he wrote to his Aunt Ellen. Concerning what he wanted to do, and how we all could help him in his mission. This is what he wants to do, and we fully support him in that mission.

To support him, here is the link. Donate to Mike Chaloupka, there will be a spot to put in his name.

Julie-Mike's Mom

Tuesday, September 2, 2008


I've had many requests to send flowers, but he can't have them in ICU. Here is the address if you'd like to send cards.

Mike Chaloupka
c/o UW Hospital
TLC Unit #8
600 Highland Ave
Madison, WI 53792

Monday, September 1, 2008

Auntie Ellie's Day With Me

I thank Jim and Julie for taking the time to breathe at home and take care of other matters that needed tending. Mike needs you to take care of yourselves.
When I arrived this morning I was semi alarmed when I saw the team of doctors standing outside his room with the curtain closed. It must of showed. His nurse immediately came over to me and told me the doctors were just discussing the case and I could go in. If you are faint of heart, I do encourage you to send your well wishes in the form of cards or emails that can be read to him. The doctors told me they had found the reason for he infection and were taking measures to correct the problem. They had the room very chilly and later put ice packs under his arm pits to keep his temp down. By afternoon he no longer had a temp and by 4 they had put the blankets on him and turned up the heat so he would stay warm enough.
The staff at University Hospital is great. I spent a lot of the day watching the "team" of experts take care of him. He is assigned a nurse that watches him.... but the rest of the nurses kept popping their head in to see if Lisa needed help. The doctors were very good at making sure I understood what they just said to the nurses. I work in the computer business and I thought there were a lot of TLAs there (three letter acronyms). There sure are a lot of two and TLAs in the medical profession!
Overall I would say he held his own today although he is still critical. There were times he didn't do as well as we would have liked..... but most times I could tell Mike was in their fighting.
We are all praying for you Mike.
Auntie Ellie


Mom and I were home today. My Sister was the very capable pinch batter for us. They are still chasing reasons for infection that is there but remaining in check. He's still sedated with more hick-ups and no smile.

PS, I added a counter so mike knows you are checking in.

Last night when we left mike was starting a Fever, so they were starting medicine for that. The fever was better this morning, but we don't need more issues, so pray that that doesn't come back.

Mom and I are home today, trying to get things together and organized. Aunt Ellen will be the on-site support today and we keep calling the staff for updates, so look here for the latest.

PS, I didn't post last night because we ate food from a care package and collapsed into our bed for the first time in a week.